Types of people

Everyone of us should know who we really are. We believe that we know the answer, but I think that most of us haven't even asked it.

There are many ways to find some guidelines from popular psychology to astrology, yoga etc.

This time I will write about Swedish author, mentalist Henrik Flexues book "The Art of reading Minds".
What so special about this book? It teaches how to understand others or at least express information in a way that it would reach people correctly. This is how we truly connect!

Goal of the book is not about realization, but for me it gave many insights about myself. Also I am very interested about information transfer and observation, because when you get deep in the process you find out that there is no objective reality.

For me, most interesting topic from the book is the theory that most of humans have priority either for visual appearances, for listening, for kinesthetic understanding - emotions, movement and feelings or for mental process. We all use sensory data to understand what is happening, but what is interesting  - we have preferences. For example when visual person comes to your home first it will see colors of the room, structures, light, shadows and just after some time he/she will or will not notice other information. If person prefer feelings it will notice smells, is it hot or cold and so on...

For me it happened many times that when I talked with my friends about some show or event, we found out that we have noticed totally different things.

There are more appearances of people who belong to groups, in book it is written a bit more about it. Visual people are fast, they talk quickly because light is faster than sound, they are expressive, love colors.
People who prefers hearing are a bit slower, they really listen and really talks, so if there is a radio or loud sounds and they get interested it can be very hard for them to concentrate to other things.
Kinesthetic people are the slowest, they a calm and mostly quit, it may look they are in deep thinking. They love touch, they may have a strong need for it.
It is hard to tell about so called "mental" people because they do not have specific characteristic.

Most of us are not aware that we have one or other preference. Yet, there might be some people who do not belong just to one of the groups or have mixed it up. Also if we are healthy we collect all of the sensory data, we hear, see and feel. But it might be that we love/prefer something more than other. Like me, I do not like to be touch too much, but I love sounds and if it fits me I really go deep in to it.

Also, there is a theory mentioned in the book that people who prefer observation mostly just by thinking - mental process are blocking themselves. It can be that in childhood they had some trauma but really they are kinesthetic - prefer feelings, smells, etc. Author H. Flexues arguments it by telling that when we grow up, what we learn first is observation by taste and feeling and if something insensitive stops us we get scared and start to block ourselves from sensations.

How all this can help? First it is fun to find out something new about yourself and others around you.
For me it helped to understand why we are so different from some of the people but still we connect.
Like my husband is quite slow, I am quite fast but we can get deep in music, sounds, dances, talks, meditation. So I think deep listening connects us well.

Take care! Connect to yourself and others.